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What My Former Boss Told Me About My Wardrobe

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What My Former Boss Told Me About My Wardrobe

{Westlake Village, California}

Though my social media name has the word “fashion,” my fashion sense during the initial stages of my professional career most definitely did not reflect any sense of the word.  During college, I apparently believed that it was appropriate to wear flip flops, cut off jeans, and a hooded sweatshirt as both a research associate/front desk clerk for the research center I worked for.  Even the more junior researchers wore slacks and pencil skirts, but I’m not sure why I didn’t put two and two together.  I vaguely recall the manager asking if I could possibly dress more conservative, but gave her the excuse that driving directly from class to work allotted minimal time for me to change clothing, therefore I promised to at least change my shoes.  I honestly thought that I was a rockstar for upgrading my flip flops to the more conservative tennis shoes, but apparently even that wasn’t good enough.  And if that wasn’t enough to get me to change, imagine how I responded when I overheard several of my more senior coworkers having a rather loud conversation within earshot discussing the importance of ‘implementing’ a dress code.  And yet, I still didn’t realize their words were directed towards me!  It wasn’t until my research supervisor had a one-to-one conversation with me that I finally got the message about my wardrobe.  He kindly informed me that the center would like for me to not only dress more conservative, but to also dress more professional.  He emphasized the fact that since I worked at the front desk, I also served as a representative of the center, and therefore it was important for me to dress professional.  To be honest, I was shocked throughout the entire conversation and thought “why didn’t they just tell this to my face sooner?”

The moral of the story is an important note about communication.  Oftentimes, we indirectly communicate our thoughts and assume that the person we’re communicating with should understand/comprehend exactly what we’re saying, but that’s not always the case.  I talked to one of my patients today about the importance of directly communicating how she feels about her teenage daughter on a deeper level rather than engaging in their usual angry conversations with one another (anger tends to be a secondary manifestation of deeper emotions such as hurt and pain).  I truly appreciated my supervisor for having such an honest conversation with me.  To this day, I still think about the conversation almost each time I contemplate what to wear to work.  Needless to say, that was a pivotal moment in my style transformation and marked the beginning of me discovering and cultivating my own personal and professional wardrobe (yes, I no longer wear cut-off jeans to work).

Photo by Alex M & Jen F

July 20, 2016 4 comments
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5 Things I Would Tell My Pre-Med Self

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5 Things I Would Tell My Pre-Med Self

Whenever I receive emails and comments from pre-medical students, I reminisce of my ambitious years in college.  The most common questions I receive pertain to advice on how to become a standout applicant in order to get accepted into medical school.  I’ve mentioned this before in a previous post — I did not perceive myself as a standout applicant (my combined GPA and MCAT scores were below average compared to other applicants).  When I started receiving emails from students, I initially felt unqualified to provide advice due to my grades and test scores.  Then, I later realized that I can be a motivating source for the nontraditional applicant and those who may not be the most gifted and top ranked in their class.  Therefore, I thought I’d do a spin on the email questions I receive by providing advice that I would tell my pre-med self.  I obviously wouldn’t change any decisions that I’ve made because each step has led me to the place of satisfaction that I experience in my career today.  Yet, being a practicing physician for the last three years, the following are a few things that could have provided a sense of reassurance during my pursuit of a career in medicine.

1.  Even if you perform horribly on the Medical College Admission Test (MCAT), don’t give up.

I don’t think there’s any one formula for getting into medical school, but in general, having a competitive GPA and top MCAT scores obviously increases your chances.  Unfortunately, I didn’t fall into the category of being among the more competitive applicants, but I applied anyway.  I will say that in my experience, I took the MCAT twice and my second exam scores were not that much better than my first, but I still applied in hopes that my personal statement, experiences, and extracurricular activities may compensate a bit.  I was honestly surprised to receive several interviews across the country (MD and DO schools).  During interviews, I was asked the reason why I took the test twice, and was honest in my response regarding the circumstances that contributed to my low test scores.  Ultimately, I was accepted into two osteopathic medical schools.

2.  Don’t listen to those who discourage going to an Osteopathic Medical School.

While applying for medical school, I thoroughly researched the differences between being an MD (Doctor of Medicine) and a DO (Doctor of Osteopathic Medicine).  Initially, I was only going to apply to MD schools because I was discouraged by fellow pre-med students and forums were terribly biased towards MD schools.  I decided to apply to both because I liked the osteopathic philosophy and felt that ultimately my main goal was to become a physician and didn’t care whether that meant having “MD” or “DO” at the end of my name.  Essentially I went the full osteopathic route by attending an osteopathic medical school (Western University of Health Sciences College of Osteopathic Medicine of the Pacific), osteopathic internship (Post-Graduate Year 1), and osteopathic psychiatry residency program (Samaritan Mental Health).  Due to the information found in forums, I worried a bit about coming off as inferior by becoming a DO instead of an MD, but I turned out just fine, am a proud DO, and feel well-respected by my peers and the medical community.  For more info regarding the differences between the MD and DO degree, check out my post here.

3. It’s more about the quality than quantity when it comes to extracurricular and medical-related experiences that you participate in as a pre-med.

If I could say I excelled at one thing as a pre-med student, it was participation in extracurricular activities.  I think I knew in the back of my mind that my grades and test scores alone wouldn’t get me into medical school (plus, I wasn’t 100% sure that I wanted to be a doctor until my junior year in college when applications were due.  See #4 below), so I focused my energy on ways to strengthen my application and decide whether or not becoming a physician was the career for me.  If I could go back in time, I would’ve participated in less activities in order to prioritize more time to relax and study.  Because I’m someone who enjoys staying active and involved — in addition to my full-time course-load, I also volunteered in several hospital departments, worked as a lab assistant, volunteered at a homeless shelter, mentored youth in the community, worked as a researcher for more than two years, was an active member in several clubs and a sorority, worked part-time at a bookstore, among other things. When it came time to apply, I listed all of my activities in my medical school application, but mainly focused on two of the most meaningful activities in my personal statement.  During interviews, I was also asked to discuss the one medical-related experience that demonstrated my commitment to a career in medicine.

4. You may be pre-med because your traditional family expects you to become a doctor, but if you change your mind and pursue a different career path, they’ll understand.

I’m sure several students can identify with the pressures to become the shining, admired physician that our high-achieving families expect us to be.  My family, especially my grandfather (who was my role model), pretty much implanted in my mind as a child that I was meant to become a physician.  In the Philippines, physicians are held with such high regard and status.  As the oldest of >30 grandchildren, my grandfather invested a lot of time and energy on educating me at an early age (I started reading when I was 5 years old, taught to write in cursive when I was 7 years old, and had daily home study sessions with him after school, etc), so I didn’t want to disappoint him once the time came to choose my career path in college.  I truly wanted to be a broadcast journalist, but decided to apply for medical school after my grandfather passed away from cancer during my junior year.  After I performed poorly on several exams during my first year of medical school, I blamed my family and parents for forcing me to go into medicine.  I feared telling them that I wanted to quit, but when I failed a practical exam, I couldn’t hold it in any longer.  Their response shocked me when they told me that all they want is for me to be happy and that they’re proud of me no matter which field I chose.  All these years, I was afraid to tell my parents and never gave them a chance to show how understanding they truly can be.

5. Don’t feel guilty about taking time off after college before attending medical school.

If you were to go straight into medical school after college, you would have a total of at least 24 years of straight education before you graduate residency and become a practicing physician (kindergarten through 12th grade + 4 years undergraduate education + 4 years medical school + at least 3 years of residency).  After I graduated from residency, I felt like a fish out of water because my comfort zone and all I’ve known my entire life was to be a student.  Personal development is delayed during medical school (since education consumes so much time and becomes top priority), so taking time off for a few years in the grand scheme of things will not hinder you in any way.  I initially felt guilty for taking one year off after college because I thought that taking time off rather than going straight into medical school demonstrated a lack of determination.  Looking back, I don’t regret it one bit.  Oftentimes, our education and future careers become our identity, which ultimately results in less time spent engaging in enjoyable activities and connecting with those who make us happy.  With the grueling years of medical training ahead, try to prioritize time for yourself to grow as a well-rounded individual rather than devoting 100% of the time solely towards your career.

 

Photo by Marlon Santos

November 6, 2015 19 comments
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Pre-Med Flashbacks

written by freudandfashion
Pre-Med Flashbacks

{Fairfield, CA}

I see numerous posted pictures on social media of college students studying late at night, cramming for tests, and getting frustrated with material.  While viewing these images, I can’t help but get flashbacks of the times I was in the same position stressed and anxiety-ridden over upcoming exams.  Over the course of my experience in blogging and social media, I have met numerous amazing people, which includes students, fashionistas, clinicians, other professionals, mental health advocates, and people coping with mental illnesses.  I am always taken aback each time someone comments on my intelligence and fortitude because I never viewed myself as academically gifted nor standout in any way.  I studied A LOT, attended office hours (even though I was too scared to ask any questions), diligently highlighted and took notes during and after class, drew study diagrams, attended practically EVERY class (I could never get myself to entrust in blackboard), participated in several organizations and held positions (even though I was often too nervous to voice my opinion), and volunteered at hospitals as often as I could.  I knew my grades and MCAT (Medical College Admission Test) scores weren’t going to be enough to get accepted into medical school, so I filled my resume with numerous meaningful activities to prove I’d be a good candidate.

I guess the reason I’m writing this is because I’d hate to see anyone give up on their goals just because they’re not inherently the smartest, nor ranked at the top of their class, nor well-connected with professors and administration, or may be struggling with a difficult life event or an episode of mental illness.  I often advocate for my college patients who struggle with mental illness to take time off from school to focus on self-care rather than crushing themselves to points beyond instability.  If there’s anything that I have learned most from my mentors, my own experience, and also my patients’ experiences is that persistence and execution of your goals are key, and if it takes a bit longer to get there, then so be it. Persistence can mean anything from allowing yourself to regroup from illness, taking a break for experiential work to explore and solidify your goals, to putting yourself in roles that challenge you beyond your comfort zone.

So, while you anxiously await your exam scores, grad school acceptance letters, etc, I hope you entrust that the outcome (whether exciting or disappointing) will lead you a step in the right direction towards self-enhancement and achievement of your ultimate goal.

Photo by Marlon Santos

February 18, 2015 7 comments
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