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Thankful Thursdays

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Thankful Thursdays

{Venice Beach, California}

For this week’s Thankful Thursdays, I would say that I am very thankful for one of my best friends from medical school, who flew into town for a quick visit.  My resolution for the remainder of the year (mentioned in my previous post) included being spontaneous and free to explore.  Surprisingly, in all my years living in southern California, I have never experienced biking along the beaches of Santa Monica and Venice, nor have I ever gone shopping on Abbott Kinney (a well-known boulevard located in Venice lined with trendy/urban shops, earthy/cool restaurants, and more).  We had a wonderful time catching up, eating delicious food, and discovering new fixtures in the area that we’d never noticed before.  I figure that Los Angeles still has a LOT to explore, therefore, to kick off my resolution, I might as well begin locally!

Thought of the Day:  What are you thankful for from this week?

For background information of the reasoning behind my Thankful Thursdays posts, check out my 1st post of the series here!  (And subsequent posts here, here, and here).

August 20, 2015 8 comments
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Explore

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Explore

{Bubblegum Alley, San Luis Obispo, California}

I know that the end of year 2015 is fast approaching, but I’m declaring a resolution for the remaining months: to be spontaneous and feel free to explore.  The restrictive years of medical education, training, and work, can be so draining.  Some of you may know that I work in clinic part-time (a career decision that I will explain in a future post), however, the majority of the time, I utilize my days off to recover from work.  Though I take absolute pride in my work as a psychiatrist, my profession is only a part of my identity and I refuse to let it dominate my life.   I’d much rather spend my time exploring new places, trying new activities, and doing whatever I can to make up for lost time spent with my head buried in books and research articles.  So, if you ever see me outside of clinic, please don’t call me “Doctor” (unless you don’t know what else to call me, or by chance are a patient of mine).  My name is Vania, and I enjoy spending time outdoors, trying a variety of sports activities, poking fun at myself while educating followers on Snapchat, getting carded at any alcohol-serving establishment, and I find beauty in even the ickiest of things (like a gum wall…how cool is that?!).

Have an exploratory weekend!

August 15, 2015 21 comments
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Finding Your Way

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Finding Your Way

{Yountville, California}

I woke up yesterday morning with a sense of dread and struggled to get out of bed, yet ended the day feeling energetic and liberated.  Lately, I’ve been making conscious efforts to prioritize myself for the sake of maintaining my sanity.  As a result, my mood and anxiety levels have improved almost instantaneously after making a crucial decision regarding my work schedule and the next step to take in my career.  If you have any important decisions to make, I strongly recommend holding off on any impulsive, irrational decisions unless you’ve had time to relax and get in the right state of mind.  So often our minds get bombarded by all the stressors in our lives that we lack any reserve to think clearly.  So take a break, talk it out with others, weigh your options, and trust that your instincts will take you down the right path.

August 1, 2015 6 comments
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Will Return

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Will Return

{Yachats, Oregon}

Still on vacation and giving my brain a chance to rest.  Will be back to reality and blogging more extensively when I return from my break next week!

Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend!

July 25, 2015 4 comments
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Psychiatry

Conquer Your Fears (Part 1)

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Conquer Your Fears (Part 1)

{Lake Tahoe, California}

At the request of one of my awesome readers, I am writing a post on conquering our fears.  Being an ENFP personality type (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving), I interpreted this in a more global, existential sense: getting over the fears and barriers that may interfere with moving forward in life and/or discovering one’s life purpose.  However, others may be more interested in something more specific such as the treatment of specific phobias and social phobia, so I will be writing on conquering symptoms of those diagnoses in future posts next week.

Every psychotherapist has their own style, but the following are questions that I may ask my patients when it comes to conquering some of their biggest fears (if they can even put a name to what their biggest fears are because oftentimes, people are not even sure of what they’re afraid of):

1.   Identify your fear.  Once you’ve identified your biggest fear (ie, when it comes to a certain situation, such as pursuing a new job, finding love, etc), what is the very 1st thought that comes to mind if I was to ask you to close your eyes and think of the following question:  When it comes to _______ (insert goal here), what is the one thing you are most afraid of??

Once aware of the biggest barrier/fear getting in the way of your goal, being consciously aware of this fear puts you more in control.

2.  Origins of the fear.  Where do you think this fear stems from?  Have you experienced a similar, familiar sense of fear in your past or during your childhood?

Having a certain level of fear is normal because the reaction helps identify danger and take action to protect, but when the fear becomes excessive, there’s usually an origin to such fears based on past experience.  Recognizing the connection with your past and how irrational the fear is in the present time can be enough for one to take action towards handling the fear more effectively this time around.

3.  Take the next step.  What small steps can be taken to slowly start working towards overcoming your fears?

For example, someone who is afraid of heights may start by going up to the roof of lower level buildings and working their way up to whatever their end goal might be to conquer the fear of heights (ie, skydiving, looking down while at the top of the empire state building, etc).  Or, someone who is afraid of pursuing their dream career might start out by researching how to achieve the career, reach out to others to get advice, or start submitting applications to obtain the educational requirements or job experience needed to improve chances of getting their dream job.

4.  Be open to disappointments and any challenges that come along the way.  Fear of failure is a common barrier towards taking risks in life.  Overcoming fears takes time and practice, so try to be as open as possible to learning and growing from the process.  Surround yourself with those who support you in your goals and failures, and motivate you to stay on track.  Wanting to give up is a normal feeling (I’ve experienced this numerous times, especially in the process of becoming a doctor) and NOT a sign of weakness.

But each time you get overwhelmed by the fear, ALWAYS REMEMBER and believe in yourself enough to recognize that you have a choice: either have power over your fears, or give power to your fears.  So visualize the end goal, look your fear straight in the eye and say “f*** you, I’m the one in control” (yes, I’ve actually told some of my patients to say this).

July 23, 2015 4 comments
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Personal Independence Day

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Personal Independence Day

{Malibu, California}

I recall previous 4th of July holidays spent working in the hospital, or on-call with my pager held tight as I nibbled on barbecue anxiously anticipating a flurry of calls regarding the behavioral management of alcohol-intoxicated patients.  This year, however, I am free from the responsibility of being on call, free from the hospital, free from clinic, but NOT free from the mentality that I SHOULD be productive and get items A-Z done on my to-do list.  Doctors tend to be perfectionists, overly self-critical, driven, competitive, which usually means that putting their “workaholic” tendencies aside in order to relax can be quite difficult.  Well, at least that’s how I feel, but I’m working on it.

So, today after 12pm I intend on putting my computer, to-do list, and anything work-related aside for the sake of my own health and sanity.  I think it’s about time to enjoy the traditions of this historic event in America, especially since barbecue and the beach sound far more appealing than doing paperwork and organizing my house.

Thought of the Day: Any other workaholics with me on this?  Do you allow yourself to put work aside during holiday weekends?

July 4, 2015 9 comments
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Reconnect

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Reconnect

{Miami Beach, Florida}

Lately, my ability to write and stay connected via my blog and social media requires far more effort than usual.  I’ve written in previous posts that when life gets overwhelming, one of the first things that fall to the wayside is my blog.  I’m trying hard to stay consistent on posting because the last time I put my blog aside, I ended up taking a one year hiatus from September 2013 through September 2014.  I sound like a broken record when I find myself regularly struggling with life balance, though I’m well aware that the ability to find balance is an ongoing process.

This weekend, I’m headed to northern California to visit my family for Father’s Day and am looking forward to reconnecting again.  I also have group therapy today before catching my flight, so i hope to get some feedback from my therapist and group members regarding my disconnect and self-critical self.

I know that I am human, “nobody’s perfect,” and we’re entitled to our good and bad days.  Yet, I just can’t help getting frustrated when I don’t feel like myself.  I’m sure several of you out there can relate?

June 20, 2015 8 comments
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Psychiatry

Psychiatry Specialty of Choice

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Psychiatry Specialty of Choice

Shore Club 6-2015 (2)

{Miami Beach, Florida}

Though I graduated from psychiatry residency three years ago and am fully employed, I continue to receive email notifications and phone calls about Psychiatrist job openings on a daily basis.  Though I typically get annoyed by the regular phone calls and messages, a part of me feels thankful that I have a lucrative career in such high demand with job openings readily available if needed, however, a part of me also can’t help but question why there’s such a shortage in psychiatrists to fill the positions.  I wrote a previous post on reasons why Psychiatry is an amazing specialty to choose, but if any current premed or medical students have any questions/concerns about the field of Psychiatry, I’d love to connect with you and answer any questions you may have.  The field of Psychiatry is extremely rewarding and I’d do anything I could to promote it because there’s so many people in need of psychiatric services.

Thought of the Day: TO ALL PREMED, FUTURE DOCTORS, & MEDICAL STUDENTS — Is Psychiatry on your radar as a possible specialty?  And if not, would love to hear the reason why as well!  Comment below or email me at freudandfashion@gmail.com.

June 11, 2015 10 comments
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A Cluttered Mind

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A Cluttered Mind

Current state of mind = disorganized.

My typical morning routine before heading to work looks pretty turbulent and disjointed.  I usually hit the snooze button several times, check my email and various social media accounts in bed with my eyes half open (and probably “like” the most random, obscene pictures on Instagram and Facebook while in a somnolent state), slowly get up to conduct my basic hygiene rituals, throw numerous pieces of clothing on my bed while selecting an outfit based on my mood, then run downstairs to grab all of my belongings (purse, food, coffee), then proceed to get into my car when I suddenly realize that I forgot something, rush back inside to recover the forgotten item, then speed off in my car and head to work.  Monday-Friday = same routine.  I used to get jealous of my friends who’d wake up early enough to sip their morning coffee, read the paper or watch the news and get ready for work at a leisurely pace.  I wish my routine could be more linear.  However, my routine has existed for years and works for me.  No harm is caused, other than leaving a mess that looks as if a tornado ripped through my bedroom.

I contemplated writing a post that provides tips on how to be more organized, but refrained since there’s plenty of articles and books on the subject.  Plus, I’d be the last person anyone would listen to on the topic of organization.  I’ve had family members, friends, exes, teachers, tutors, medical directors, etc, try and teach me strategies to better organize my life.  And did I listen?  Sometimes, but mostly no.  I experimented with various methods and eventually cultivated my own process that works best for me.  Therefore, I will at least list my tactics since sometimes it’s helpful to know what works for others:

  • Start the morning with a to-do list:  if you’re one who can keep your to-do list straight in your mind, then more power to you.  I, however, have to jot down my list otherwise nothing gets done.
  • Keep only one planner/organizer:  at one point, I was writing things in my planner, penciling appointments into a separate calendar, entering activities into my google calendar, sticking post-its in random places = STRESS trying to keep track of everything.  I’m old-school and like writing things down, so I keep one planner and make sure I list all my notes, to-do list, appointments, etc, in my planner so that I know exactly where to look.
  • Recognize patterns in your disorganization:
    • Prioritize sleep — productivity, cognition, concentration, and overall ability to function, are directly correlated with sleep.  I am most disorganized if I don’t sleep well the night before.  Once I was able to identify this pattern, I learned not to be so hard on myself on those days and made sure to prioritize getting a good night’s rest on subsequent days.
    • Maintain your routine as much as possible — when my weekly routine changes (for example, due to travel, etc), I have a much harder time getting re-situated upon my return.  However, recognizing this pattern reminds me that I need to either be more proactive or go easier on myself if my house or office looks even more disastrous than usual (yes, I’m one of those people who takes several days to unpack my suitcases).

Though I’m currently a bit more disorganized than usual, I know that I’ll eventually get back on track.  Today, I wrote my to-do list and proudly checked off half of the items listed.  Over the years, I’ve learned not to beat myself up if I wasn’t able to complete everything on my list.  Tomorrow is a new day and it’s not the end of the world if I have a few extra items listed and has a negligible impact in the grand scheme of things.

Therefore, my main advice is to discover what works for you.  The most validating statement ever made to me about my perceived disorganization was when my mentor told me that it’s okay to find comfort in chaos.  While some people prefer neat, tidy, and systematic, others may function better in a less controlled environment.  Just because my routine isn’t the same as my friends’ doesn’t mean that I’m abnormal.

Thought of the Day:  Which techniques help you most with organization?

 

Photo by Marlon Santos

May 21, 2015 12 comments
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Home Sweet Home

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Home Sweet Home

{Fairfield, California}

As a fledgling adult who moved away from home for college then medical school, my family often made trips to visit me, especially to drop off or prepare a home-cooked meal (I lived 30 minutes away from home for college and 7 hours away for medical school).  Now that I’ve completed all my training, I return the favor for all the support I received and visit them in northern California as often as I can (except I’m not the best cook, so my family probably prefers that I NOT make the home-cooked meals).  I am currently staying at my parents’ place this weekend for a mini family reunion and feel pretty excited that I get to reunite with family members visiting from the Philippines whom I haven’t seen in years (and apparently there’s a boxing match everyone’s watching tonight).  We all have our own priorities in life and at one point my education and career took precedence over family, but I learned my lesson after missing out on numerous momentous events.  Having a lucrative career can bring a sense of satisfaction, but true happiness can’t be attained unless balanced with those who support you the most.

I hope you have a balanced weekend!

May 2, 2015 11 comments
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